Well said and I agree. It is just that some Aikidoka don't even have self-defence on the list as a priority, like training is just pottery class or something.
I have seen the same, and while I'm sure there are some benefits of this, I think it robs aikido of much of its spiritual power.
In general, most of the greatest spiritual benefits of the martial arts come from the opportunity to face our own fear, pain, and insecurity. If we train our aikido as a dance, we deny ourselves this opportunity.
Aikido in particular is supposed to be a microcosm of the way we live our lives. If we are not training our aiki movements as a means of resolving conflict, I think our aiki spirit will be similarly deficient.