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Old 09-08-2005, 10:02 AM   #26
Camille Lore
Dojo: Lehigh Fukasakai
Location: Northeast Pennsylvania
Join Date: Jun 2005
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Re: Aikido and jujutsu in everyday conflicts

Seems that this guy who liked to stare me down has found more interesting things inside the local bar. I just carried myself physically in a confident way, knowing that if there were any kind of confrontation, I could probably take care of myself.
As for the screaming boss, I tenkaned, spritual atemi'd by being friendly and will soon be parting ways with this person....this has certainly been a path of learning in my aikido. I have the jujutsu if I need it, but can use the aikido when the situation is relevant.
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Old 09-09-2005, 03:51 AM   #27
Dojo: Richmond Aikido (VA)
Location: Richmond
Join Date: Aug 2005
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Re: Aikido and jujutsu in everyday conflicts

Hey Camille,
I think that you just have to pick your battles when it comes to conflict resolution now a days. I get to handle a lot of conflicts as a police officer every time i go to work. One day a option at handling a conflict might be to make and arrest, and the next day it might be to handle a situation with a few verbal suggestions or a bit of verbal attitude adjustment.
If it is a stubborn mean boss at the office, you gotta make your decision before hand. I am going to allow the supervisor to push me around on this subject or topic or would it be in my best interest to blend with him and dispose of him/her with cooperation. It all totally depends on the situation that you have at hand.
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Old 05-21-2006, 12:39 PM   #28
Bill Danosky
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Re: Aikido and jujutsu in everyday conflicts

IMO, keeping Ki conciousness is a great way to help you deal with any situation. Tohei sensei (one of the rare Japanese who mentions being in the army during WW2) felt it kept him safe from everything - harassment from aggressive NCOs during basic training, to actual, flying bullets during combat.

Sounds hard to believe, but it worked for him, and surviving some of his experiences gives him an awful lot of credibility with me.

No matter what you believe, it's the strength of your faith in it that helps you cope.
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Old 05-21-2006, 04:02 PM   #29
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Re: Aikido and jujutsu in everyday conflicts

Larry Feldman wrote:
For 'verbal aikido' try Terry Dobson's book Aikido in Everyday Life
I second that. It is a wonderful book!

A secret of internal strength?:
"Let your weight from the crotch area BE in his hands."
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Old 05-31-2006, 12:10 AM   #30
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Re: Aikido and jujutsu in everyday conflicts

Mark Walsh wrote:
Dear Camille

"Off-the-mat" or applied aikido may be helpful to you. Dobson and Miller's, "Aikido in Everyday Life" was an early book in the field, that is still a good place to start. They present a bunch of aiki options, other than smiling an walking away.

I work part time for Aiki Extensions a non-profit who specialize in this area, we have a bunch of articles available free on-line:


Paul Linden's articles are accessible and well worth a read.



PS - If your partner is interested we also do work with police.
have to second that, paul linden's articles are definitely worth reading, pls check it out for those of you who are into quality articles.
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Old 05-31-2006, 07:29 AM   #31
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Re: Aikido and jujutsu in everyday conflicts

Have also discovered Non Violent Communication of late. The best form of "verbal aikido" I have come across so far. Highly recomended for emotive situtaions, personal relatioships, etc.

By far the most developed all round "applied aikido" I have come across comes out of the Strozzi Institute. Life changing, inspirational courses.
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Old 06-24-2006, 09:44 AM   #32
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Re: Aikido and jujutsu in everyday conflicts

hope this reply isnt late.... but before anything, Camille, let me say that I hope the situation has been improving for you...

I've been in a simmilar position before long before I studied aikido. my girlfriend and I almost got mugged by a gang. We managed to fend them off by getting everyone else's attention for help.
But it was after the ordeal when I realized i was shaking so hard it took a lot of coffee to calm us down....

Most of the time, the internal conflicts that result from these encounters are actually harder to deal with. One thing I appreciate learning in aikido is how to combat these inner conflicts... anything that arises outside will seem less daunting because we continually challenge ourselves to attain the peace we seek.

these ideals sometimes sound cliche, but hey they work for me
hope they work for you too... good luck!
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Old 10-13-2010, 10:01 AM   #33
Chris Evans
Location: Berkeley, CA.
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The main goal of self defense is to come out of the encounter with as little damage to yourself as possible. At least, that's how I understand it.

Whatever you do, always look at the long/mid term. While supervisors can be arseholes, they can make your life very difficult indeed. Just note down the encounter, time and reasons, in a book. If/when you decide to take action against said co-worker, then that will come in handy to prove that it's not a one off. If it is one offs, just let it slid.

If you are mathematically inclined, have a look at game theory. It's the mathematical model of conflicts and very interesting... Then again, that's my job so really I would say that!

And of course, there is nothing more annoying than someone who is polite, smiling and cheerful even in the face of arseholes. Hey, everyone sees you as the good guy and them as the bad guy whatever the background.

Of course, taking steam off is necessary: just train hard. Not talking, just do techniques till sweat drips out of you like a waterfall! Go to more classes and continue to train hard. It'll help. Of course, train hard and safe.

Best of luck.
that's good stuff.

"The state that separates its scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting by fools."
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Old 10-13-2010, 10:39 AM   #34
Janet Rosen
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Re: Aikido and jujutsu in everyday conflicts

Another dead thread resurrected...

Janet Rosen
"peace will enter when hate is gone"--percy mayfield
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Old 10-13-2010, 03:58 PM   #35
Dojo: Aikido Institute - Oakland
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Re: Aikido and jujutsu in everyday conflicts

Janet Rosen wrote: View Post
Another dead thread resurrected...
Hi Janet,
While some folks in the forum have been here for a while and have gone through many of these conversations already, i think Aikiweb presents its forums as being open to anyone, including new folks who are just now learning about Aikido and are starting these conversations for themselves. when one goes to the topics area, looking for a specific topic, they may see a thread there that speaks to what they are focusing on at the moment, and thus may want to chime in--i think being a member of the site allows them to do that.

in the time that i have been on here i have seen you and others post the "this thread is dead" comment almost immediately after people comment on something --is this really necessary?

if it is dead to you, why add the comment? just because you've been there done that, doesnt mean everyone else has.

unless Jun can come up with a way of maintaining an "advanced forum only for people who have been there done that" this is always gonna happen.

let us promote true tolerance and welcome our newbies while understanding that they havent yet mastered the universe as much as we have, no?

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