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Old 10-28-2004, 12:37 PM   #1
Location: Miami, FL
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Being "Too Comfortable"

One thing Aikido has done for me is that I'm more comfortable around strangers. While this clearly has its benefits, it can also have its detriments.

I was at a bar in Tallahassee, sitting next to a girl I had just met. I almost felt like I had known her her whole life. We had a deep conversation while our mutual friends were shooting pool. I watched a man walk over and sit next to me. He asked me if I wanted to hang out. I said sure. He then asked me if I would buy him a beer. I said, "No but we can hang out." He said in garbled language something to the extent of, "If you look in Webster's dictionary under 'hanging out' that includes buying the person a beer." I just said "Sorry," and eventually he left. I looked at the girl I had just met and she was clearly afraid of this beggar. Eventually he left and I patted myself on the back for being nice to him without being too nice. My comfort in this situation I attribute highly to Aikido training.

I started a job about a month ago. I was immediately comfortable around all my co-workers. I tried to bring the spirit of Aikido into the workplace, but I found that some of my co-workers were highly stand-off-ish towards me despite my being open with them. There appears to be a general malaise of distrust here in Miami, and I think that Aikido training might be one way to bring us closer together. What do you all think?
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Old 10-28-2004, 01:04 PM   #2
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Re: Being "Too Comfortable"

It's nice to find that aikido is having "off the mat" effects!
I think that part of awareness is being able to quickly read the reality of a situation. I don't know what you mean by "spirit of aikido", but If the reality is that the cultural norm is stand-offish, my interpretation would be "blend and maintain zanshin." Does "uke" WANT to be brought closer? On whose terms and timetable?

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Old 10-28-2004, 10:37 PM   #3
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Re: Being "Too Comfortable"

I wish more people were open like that.

I also think that Aikido is indeed a way of bringing people together, by giving them common ground and a peaceful philosophy.

"The only true victory is victory over oneself."

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Old 10-31-2004, 03:53 PM   #4
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Re: Being "Too Comfortable"

I envy you for your judgement and ability not to be afraid of or judge people. I was assulted in 2001, and I'm still not over it :-s Really paranoid on the streets when there are people about now, always. I'm really hoping aikido will help me as it's helped you, mate.
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Old 10-31-2004, 07:07 PM   #5
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Re: Being "Too Comfortable"

I like the thread authors story. I drove into a carwash today and was the only white guy there, the rest were spanish. I made friends with the cashier who started the conversation with me in reference to religion among her background. and then i actually petted a pit bull and made buds with its owner. Point being ,that aikido does make one looser around others and actually can draw beings toward you in an interesting way. Its all an adventure anyway so what the hell. Take care.
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Old 11-01-2004, 07:35 AM   #6
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Re: Being "Too Comfortable"

O'Sensei said Aikido was a cure for a sick world. I guess if you really digest the medicine, it is.

Lynn Seiser PhD
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We do not rise to the level of our expectations, but fall to the level of our training. Train well. KWATZ!
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