Giving up aikido

Anonymous, it looks like you have the following options:

1. Ditch the dojo, maintain current relationship.
2. Ditch current partner, go out with dojo mate.
3. Ditch current partner AND dojo, swearing off all romantic relationships. Move into monastery/nunnery.
4. Go out with both interested parties behind their respective backs.
5. Go out with both people and make no secret about it to them.
6. Have current partner and dojo mate fight a duel to the death over you.
7. Go out with your sensei.

The last few options should be more exciting, if that's what you're looking for...

Best of luck, and let us know how it turns out.

(this is purely tongue-in-cheek...I blame the medication I'm on right now)

Yeah, I have spoken to the person at the dojo & they have been very understanding about all of this. Which I guess is a bonus. Doesn't make me feel much better though. Give it time, hey??

LOL, I have thought about becoming a nun. (Just me & God, no complications!)
And I agree, having feelings for my Sensei would've been a heck of a lot worse. And I hate to think what his wife would've done to me...

Cheers once again for all the posts, didn't think I'd get so many. :)

If you become a nun, please continue to shave your legs. That is all. :P

Complications are what make relationships, it brings you closer knowing that you can get through it together. You gotta remember, though we depict the perfect relationship with happy snapshots of couples smiling and kissing and holding hands, it's those complications you speak of that take us from one happy snapshot to the next.

Let's just say the complications involved feelings for some one at the dojo... And I would assume the consequences of not quitting would involve lack of trust & all the problems that brings in relationships

Having been in this situation before. It's better to keep going and work through the problems. At least in my case it was. If someone wants you to stop doing something you love because they don't trust you while doing it, well, i dunno, that just seems like a really bad trait in a person to me.

Well, I have made a stand & decided my dojo is worth fighting for! I went to class & it did cause an argument, but I am going with a promise that it will not be a problem.

There have been a lot of things in life I suppose I haven't stood up for, but I have realised that some times you have to make a stand for some thing you love.

The rest of my life still feels a mess, but I think continuing with aikido will help me deal with that.

Not running off to a nunnery just yet...

Haha...good.