rob_liberti

If you are a leader in your dojo then you should talk to that person. If it is a child then certainly talk to the parents. Children should not be shamed for something out of their control. I'm not into this extreme permissive parenting thing that raises spoiled and nasty kids, but there exists too far the other direction as well - and lots of time the parents are good people who mean well but fail to understand what is appropriate at each level of development (like many senseis!). An example would be like a parent saying, "little Bobby isn't very good at sharing" right infront of their kid who is say 2 years old has has no capacity to be good at sharing yet - but understands enough to feel bad about his parents shaming him.

The best way to talk to someone in the dojo is to remember "we are all equal people" (like Wally Jay used to say at seminars) and that you just happen to have more experience in this particular area so it's your responsibility to help them undertsand the rules of the dojo.

If you feel you cannot address the person directly, then you need to go to a sempai for help like in every other situation.

When the dai-sempai is doing something wrong, do everyone a favor and bring it up them (get a sempai in between you both to help if you need). If that doesn't work, make sure the person running the dojo knows. If there is still no change, you should probably leave and find another place. If everyone did that we'd have a lot better aikido world.

Rob