"But For me, I think it would be nice if we could all be a little more clear about what it is that we think is important in training, and see where it is we (the Aikido community) meet.""
I think, (opinion, which is all you are going to get and then maybe a consensus) that the majority of the people here, are serious practitioners looking for an effective martial art that will hold up under scrutiny.(me)
Real , truth , pushing the training envelope, etc, application in the street , in the ring and so on
I also think we live in the USA of entertainment and a lot of us have ADD and do not like holding the mirror up on ourselves, happy to view someone else's reflection. This non reflection keeps a lot of people from asking those very questions you ask.