My instructor Judith Robinson is a great martial artist and has trained quite a few of the higher ranked dan females in our dojo. In my opinion (as I have trained quite a few places over the years) there isn't anything in aikido she can't do or teach. She is also one of the nicest people I know and would probably be very happy to talk with you. I have never seen her turn away a question and know she would be thrilled help you.
This is our schools web site and here is her direct email address: firstname.lastname@example.org
She has contacts throughout the aikido world and one of her focus's is on women's aikido. It might be worth your time to contact her.
Good luck and don't give up!