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Old 09-04-2008, 12:49 PM   #14
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Re: Fear-based to Love-based

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Anja Lampert wrote: View Post
Just what came to my mind after reading the posts of you all... I'm not sure if I can explain properly what it feels like...
Anja,

IMHO, your explanation illustrates it properly. When you identified with your traumatized friend, you took on her perspective of the world as unsafe (common among rape victims), you became fear-based (even out of love). That could have stayed with you. But, it sounds like when you trained, you owned back some of your personal power.

Compliments.

Lynn Seiser PhD
Yondan Aikido & FMA/JKD
We do not rise to the level of our expectations, but fall to the level of our training. Train well. KWATZ!
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