...Except uke is a reflection of nage. That's the problem, right? Yamabiko. The echo of the mountain.
Don't add noise. If uke is acting appropriately, her behavior is a reflection of what nage is doing. If uke is not acting appropriately, then that's a problem in and of itself. I think we [often] confuse our inability as nage for non-compliance in uke. At is base level, if nage is moving correctly, then uke is moving correctly. How can this break? First, I am not the echo of the mountain (no aiki). Second, I project what I believe is "correct" movement onto my uke.