Checked out your web-site. Nothing 'Manly' about your appearence
not even middle-aged as the matter of fact. With all the dancing you've been doing I bet you have a nice flow in your aikido, and you might have a chance to develop a very good grounding too.
Disclaimer: if the above in anyway come out as something unplesant, then it's entirely unintentionally. English is not my first language.