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Old 09-11-2011, 04:22 PM   #12
graham christian
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Re: Problem with another aikidoka.

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Adam Frank wrote: View Post
I thank you all for your answers so far, what I have done myself is confront him during lesson and ask him to be my partner. He declined, I repeated, he declined and moved with someone else. So the option of talking to him my self has gone. Next stage is to resort to doing what an adult does with two children. In this case, me and my enemy are the children. Sensei will be the adult. Is this a sound plan?

EDIT: He's also sent messages online which means he cannot bear a face to face encounter. Where as I am willing to do that, he has backed out.
If he shuns you and won't train with you then it looks like you are therefore a problem to him. Seeing him as a problem is probably your problem.

Try seeing him as something else other than a problem.

Regards G.
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