Thanks for the assistance, but I think the dilemma is solved for the time being.... The bottom line is that it's just an unacceptable situation for me, and I have to face up to it.
Sorry to hear that.
I'm going to give JKD and BJJ an earnest try - these arts have a much different spirit, and a huge array of techniques, ranges, and strategies that are unfamiliar to me.
Well, then...welcome to the dark side!
Out of curiousity, who are you going to be training with?