Re: When is it ok to hurt?
One of our first-kyu students told the following story on himself:
His wife talked him into attending her swing-dancing classes. They were being taught on a pretty advanced level and he felt like he had two left feet for most of the evening. Then they finally got to a move where you swirl your partner around behind you and to the front. Suddenly everything clicked, here was something he could *do*, so he swirled his partner around--and caught himself just in time with her hand held up in front of him, his fingers resting lightly on top of hers, ready to throw her koteoroshi....
It's a bit scary, the habits one gets into in training. Perhaps it would be a good exercise to sometimes do the weapon takeaway drills with alternating uke and nage, so that the person who takes the weapon gets to keep it, not hand it back?