I was not always using half/speed or half strength when trying a judo technique but I did avoid using too much force when I thought the result might hurt her. She tripped my legs up a few times and I threw her with O Soto Gari, and that was about it.
Its hard to explain but I think you are taking this one contest too seriously anyway, I was just having some fun at my own expense by posting this anyway
More embarassing perhaps is the poor guy who fell for the "What's that over there" trick while I proceeded to do a double leg grab takedown.