Janet Rosen

Chuck, I don't know how many dojo are within driving distance for you, but it sounds like you might want to check the dojo finder here on aikiweb to see if you have missed any, then visit/watch as many as you can to try to find the "right fit" for you.
If you can't, your 3 options are accepting that you will train in a place less than optimal in order to train, find a really good instructor/school in a different art until you relocate, or relocate to where there is a dojo you like.