There's really no odds, Sir T.
Especially with Jo, who is pretty reasonable. You're pretty reasonable, too.
But Tony reminds me of a truck driver who used to come into a coffee shop I frequented. He took to sitting with a group of people I liked and with whom I used to have lengthy conversations on interesting topics.
The problem was, this guy was all talk and no listen. He would make his statements in a loud and crude voice and when you tried to respond, he would just make another statement, talking over you. Maybe if he'd had something interesting to say, people would have listened to him, but it was all noise, negativity, complaints and bragging. And if you tried to "converse" with him, compare notes, make an observation, he would just keep on moaning right over you. I soon found another place to sit and I could hear him criticizing me from the bar for thinking I was better than "them". He soon found himself alone. The coffee shop also went down about that time. He's no good for talk and he's no good for business.
Sad, really, but what more can you do?
Best to you.