2. Sometimes, I have a much easier time working with women than with men. I began training not too long ago (I'm a 6th kyu) and at this stage in the game, I'm just getting over the fear that I'm going to hurt uke. Working with anyone who's softer or more gentle than me directs my attention back to that nagging fear that I'm being harmful and away from the technique. I'm sure a lot of this has as much or more to do with being a beginner and my concept of what MA means as it has to do with gender.