2. The one thing that I have noticed both in Aikido & when attending seminars and such is that women seem to be a little heavy handed. For some reason they seem to forget that nikkyo & sankyo really hurt! Even my daughter (age 10) has a tendency to "whip" my wrist into sankyo and I have to remind her I'm still her father and that it really hurts!
We are a small dojo and have only 2 women adults. One an untested beginner and the other is 4th kyu. Boy is she rough! We try not to discourage her too much simply because if she ever has to really use it we don't want her hesitating about hurting someone. The same goes for my daugher I guess.