Re: Seeking information!
I think studying Aikido has helped me. I have learned self-defense inside and out. To feel safe at first I studied self-defense as well as Aikido for quite a while. Aikido training affords me the possiblilty to look at every choice I make in a new light.
A thought about Mary M's statistic about the person you are intending to marry. If your relationship is violent she is in more danger than other people. However, if your relationship is not violent she is not in as much danger.
Women and children are generally hurt by people they know instead of strangers. But the quality of relationship is a factor that makes a difference in the statistic.