Re: personal issues and training
My dojo had something similar to this once; the difference was that he had been training a while before she came to the dojo, and people already knew and were friendly with him. She ended up leaving, but word had gotten around and people started acting differently towards him so that he eventually left as well.
Her version of events was somewhat different from his, though I think that they were both telling the truth as they saw it. All-in-all, it was a sad case. I think that training would have helped them both, in this individual case.