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Old 01-13-2011, 09:33 AM   #26
Janet Rosen
 
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Re: Is there another solution?

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Demetrio Cereijo wrote: View Post
Where do you put righteous indignation, as self defense or as revenge?
Good question, Demetrio. I think righteous indignation is an internal emotional response to a feeling of being ignored, disrespected, etc (It is very rarely an emotional response to an actual danger, which triggers a very different response). It does NOT have to be acted on.

I think that, for me at least, it is the emotional response to being treated as if my actions or motives had been misunderstood, and I've learned over the years that I don't actually have the ability to always make myself understood or my actual motives clear to the other person.

If I "lash out" in other than a self-defense situation I want it to be because I have made a mindful decision that lashing out is in fact the best option to resolve a problem, not because I want to feel better or "teach a lesson." If I can think of a better option I will use it.

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