Thanks all - so far.
You're right, I have indeed opened myself up to attack. Therefore I guess I get what I deserve.
Anyway, I've got bigger and way more serious life worries to deal with, so this is all a bit like being at Primary school and having to stand up to the bullies.
And George S. Ledyard, I do understand that there are many here with more experience then I could ever imagine but still, I think 25 years of "reality testing training" counts for something. Or does it?
Thanks for all who "voted". Still not sure if I'm in or out though!?
Back to the real world.......