Here is a video for folding your hakama: I fold mine three times instead of twice though.
Here is a video of the way I tie my himo:
Just a note though, at least in my dojo, when it comes to: tying a hakama on, folding the hakama and folding the himo there are several ways, depending on who you watch. You dojo may have "a way" or your dojo may have many ways.
P.S. I'm sure you look fine in your hakama. Maybe we should have a support group. "Hi, my name is Ashley and I look aweful in ::FILL IN THE BLANK::" Haha. Post a picture and then hear how we don't look as bad as we feel.