Re: Problem with shiho nage :( please help!
Saito Sensei often told people that especially shihonage is not a good technique to use when you want to show someone what aikido is about. He said that people will turn out of it, and to stop this from happening you need to do the technique dynamically, and untrained people are not ready for this kind of training. In general, as many of the others have also said, playing around with aikido is very difficult to do, and risky, both for you (when you are trying to be careful not to hurt your untrained uke) and for your partner. It takes a lot of control to lead an untrained person through an aikido technique firmly yet gently. This will come with time.