Yes, Susan, I understand. The whole mind set is different.
Mary, I had this student who was very fearful. She had been through awful things. The first time we did jyu waza, she cried. But she persevered. After a couple years of aikido, she was walking down the hall during class change. I was a few people behind her and I saw a large guy using his body to try to maneuver her into a corner, probably to talk to her. I don't think he intended her harm, but she's a tiny person and he's huge. I was hurrying ahead to intervene when I heard, "DON'T BLOCK MY PATH!" and she walked right through him. I laughed so hard...