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Eric Webber · 01-25-2009, 06:13 PM

Some things to consider are what impact will it have on your aikido practice, the dojo and the other person's training?

When I've dated someone at the dojo I've kept strict rules that we are aikidoka on the mat, and that our personal relaionship cannot affect that as it may get dangerous (loss of focus, concentration, getting sloppy with technique due to starry eyes or firey eyes, depending how the previous night went...). I am just a bit cautious about this sort of thing b/c of the overall impact it tends to have on all parties.

That being said, there is nothing wrong with sharing with the indicated girl an interest in getting to know her off the mat, perhaps coffee, beer, or some other personal activity that allows you to chat without it necessarily being a "date," which can help with the shyness factor.

Best of luck, let us know how it works out!

...okay - curiousity has the best of me - is she your junior or senior student and by how much (i.e. time, rank, etc.)?

01-25-2009, 06:13 PM	#17
Eric Webber Dojo: Aikido West Reading Location: Reading, Pa Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 261 Offline	Re: Romantic Feelings for a Girl at the Dojo Some things to consider are what impact will it have on your aikido practice, the dojo and the other person's training? When I've dated someone at the dojo I've kept strict rules that we are aikidoka on the mat, and that our personal relaionship cannot affect that as it may get dangerous (loss of focus, concentration, getting sloppy with technique due to starry eyes or firey eyes, depending how the previous night went...). I am just a bit cautious about this sort of thing b/c of the overall impact it tends to have on all parties. That being said, there is nothing wrong with sharing with the indicated girl an interest in getting to know her off the mat, perhaps coffee, beer, or some other personal activity that allows you to chat without it necessarily being a "date," which can help with the shyness factor. Best of luck, let us know how it works out! ...okay - curiousity has the best of me - is she your junior or senior student and by how much (i.e. time, rank, etc.)?