Very sincere and confusing post. Probably we really think too much about "does this technique work?" instead of "do we want this technique to work?". I mean "do we want this technique to be applied in a real encounter"... Hopefully Aikido also teaches us how to execute that "escape" you are talking about.
I remember my friend told me ones that the difference between smart and wise person is that smart person can handle difficult situation, wise one won't be caught in it.
Good luck with your nightmares.