Re: Blindly searching for the path of Aikido
For your situation, Listen to Lynn. He gave you the best outline of what to do if you are only able to visit a dojo very infrequently.
The only thing I would add is that you ask for help at the dojo you are attending. Does their organization have any videos, books you can study ? That way you can help reinforce what dojo training you do get.
while doing all this, you might just keep your eyes and ears open for a on base workout partner. Talk to others on base, see if you encounter anyone, who a) has the same interest and b) is willing to go train at the dojo also when they can manage.
p.s. I know of some people with an Aikido school in the Virginia Beach area. What school are you able to occasionally attend ?