Re: Aikido is still violent......?
I gotta agree with Thomas. Aikido allows you to control the level of violence in an encounter. What this level is depends solely on the circumstances, IMO. You could break someone's neck, but you allow them to take a backfall, as an example. In any event, the minimum amount of violence necessary to resolve the situation ought to be used.
As was mentioned above, there is always yoga if you don't like the idea of violence (or ikebana, for that matter.)