With the clarification you have provided Jop, I would suggest finding another dojo and taking a demo class if you can.
I think you can judge from the responses that you are not experiencing all of Aikido. I also think alot of the aggressive responses you got are due to the misconception that the Aikido you are experiencing, is typical of *all* Aikido. I'll testify, it's not the case at all =)
Good luck in your search, I hope you can find a dojo that fits your needs.