I'm usually just responding to a rude answer....Remember, if someone acts agressively toward me for no good reason other than a bruised ego, I'll hold up a mirror to them.
All I'm saying Jim, is that you can hold up a mirror without being
the mirror. And the more you're able to do that, the less rude/attacking responses you're going to get because
1) you're going to look like you're open-minded and in search of answers, too; and
2) people will look stupid attacking you for no reason.
Turn with the energy of the conversational-punch, rather than try to conversationally counter-punch.
... Or I could just be talking.