Also I am dying to get a bit of play time in with someone from another art, but as soon as I do anything they are not familiar with they back off, its quite frustrating, where can I find a kickboxer who is not afraid of falling
Muay thai allows some throws from the clinch. San shou/San Da allows a much wider range of throws. Not sure if there are any schools in the area.
You may want to try Cape Town Street Tough, a , Straight Blast Gym Affliate