I've got to support Nick's morbid fascination. Both in christianity and in Buddhism there is this concept of not being able to live properly until you have died. Sounds odd, but I think what they're getting at is something like this...
there was a man who was good at rowing and a man who was good at swimming, about to cross this particularly hazardous part of the Yangtze. The rower got partway across and became too scared by the currents, he became agitated and the boat turned over.
The man who could swim went this way and that across the river, the boat carried by the currents, but at no time did he become agitated and he eventually reached the other side.
[I think Chuang Tzu wrote this, though I'm sure I have altered it many respects].