Of course we're all not equal...
Gross generalizations are pretty dumb. Of course women aren't equal to men, that is to say that not all women are equal to all men. We tend to confuse the ideal that all people should be treated equally under the law with the fact that each person is an individual.
I've had the privilege of working with a number of women, and each of them has had different strengths and weaknesses, just like the men I've worked with. The thing is, the differences I observed and felt could be attributed more to rank/experience than gender.
For me it's pretty simple. I work with what uke gives me, and try to be the best uke I can be. That means being sesitive, keeping an open mind, and giving a strong, committed attack. It doesn't matter to me what gender the person I'm working with is.