Please allow me to retell a popular zen story that I think is related to your problem:
A young woman approached a great martial arts master.
"Oh most venerable sensei" she said. "I have come to study your incredible martial art. I will train very very hard. How long will it take me to become a master?"
"I think 10 years," the master said.
"That's far too long! I will quit my job, and train every day for hours. Then how long will it take?"
"Perhaps 20 years."
"What? How can this be? Fine. I will leave my family, live as a monk and think about nothing but training. When a fellow student does a technique once, I will do it 100 times. I will follow your every word and never look back. Now how long will it take?"
"At least 30 years."