There may also be some misunderstanding about what "love" means.
I believe it is loving to stop someone from doing bad things to themselves or others.
I believe it is loving to force myself to grow spiritually by going beyond what I'm comfortable with.
I believe it is loving to let someone else experience their own power.
I don't necessarily believe it's loving to be passive when someone else is being aggressive, to the detriment of themselves or another.
I don't necessarily believe that it's loving to embrace only passive love and be unable to protect someone else from creating their own negative karma.
I do believe that it is loving to keep a sense of humor, be myself, and make others think. (Sometimes I even make me think).
Love, like Aikido, has a lot of sides. Everyone comes from/to the side with which they feel affinity.