I think the chess analogy is very interesting. I had a friend in Israel who taught AiKiDo and Chess to some children with social and learning difficulties. He talked a lot about the similarities between the two, but I've honestly had a hard time seeing it.
Chess, in my mind, is much more like sparring or wrestling with your friends. It's a situation in which the goal on both sides is to have a competition and arrive at a winner. Sometimes this is because one or both of them want to be a winner, but lets hope that it's usually because the process is fun and interesting. In any case, both sides willingly enter into a controlled situation of conflict.
AiKiDo (at least the way I understand it) is more about how to defuse and de-escalate situations of conflict. It's just a different beast.
Which isn't to say that there isn't a lot of value and a lot to be learned by playing with the ideas you talked about, I just find it hard to think of that as AiKiDo.