Re: Leading your uke?
Ledyard Sensei expressed it perfectly.
At the other extreme was my experience...being uke for a young, longlimbed fit guy a foot taller than me. He wanted me to run around him to grab the second hand. As he was "leading", this would necessitate me literally sprinting at a dead heat in a circle around him. After doing it once, I respectfully asked him how this could by any stretch be considered an attack. I was told "this is the correct way."
I was 4 th kyu at the time and he a nidan. And yeah there is a point at which one is supposed to have faith in the teaching. But damnit that was just wrong.