It is not a fight, Loud Cloud.
My comment about fighting was referring to outside the dojo
..not during paired waza practice. But I just don't think the practice is martial when you have ukes doing things like desperately trying to follow an arm that make no sense in an actual martial encounter.
But I guess it depends on what you're ultimately shooting for. I took a look at your dojo's website and no where does it advertise that you're teaching a functional martial art. I actually applaud this, after all aikido can provide any multitude of benefits besides self defense.