Re: Leading your uke?
I am not a "leading" fan. Leading supposes there is also a following; so what if you partner does not follow? For us, we use the term "connected" specifically to speak about a relationship when all power from nage is transferred into uke. That is, when I move my partner moves. This is a two-way street since uke can also transfer power into nage. The concept of "leading" is related more to the order of affection; its more about who is first to affect (and prevent from recovering) the other. It is not so much a lead/follow relationship but an affect/recover relationship.
To complicate matters, there then is the issue of directing power into your partner's center and preventing your partner from directing power into your center. whole other thread...