Re: Which Style?
If you dig around Aikiweb a little you will see that this topic has been talked about a bit.
I have trained on just one path for my whole training with a little wander of 15 years into self defense.
You could look at the dojos in your area and do some research. Trust your gut. At a thriving dojo there will be people of all ranks and and at least 3 or 4 women.
That would be what I would look for...of course you may be looking for a different kind of training...so ask yourself what your looking for and go find it.