Sure, I can see how it might be annoying to want to talk about martial effectiveness and have someone talk about what might seem ancillary (in my opinion, FWIW, de-escalation/etc. is most definitely an aspect of comprehensive self defense). On the other hand, it can be annoying when people are talking about the peaceful mind/etc. aspect only to have someone imply it's unrealistic and will fall apart at first sign of aggression. Sure, let's stay on topic.
Good luck with that.