"Spoon feeding is not an option", indeed, if you're simply regurgitating pop psychology rather than speaking from a sound understanding, and is even less of an option if you disclaim your earlier statements every time they're substantially refuted. You continue to reinforce rather than challenge my opinion, but then, as you've pointed out, it's not your job to convince me. I hope that one day you'll throw up your hands, ask yourself why you have this need to tie everything together into a nice neat perfect spiritually-correct package (and never mind the messy reality that contradicts it), drop the story line, and get on with it.
Maybe it is you who reinforce your own opinion.
I don't regurgitate any others 'psychology' as my own thanks. I say what is sound understanding, well practiced and demonstrated.
I wish one day many will throw up their hands and ask themselves why they don't know the spiritually-correct base.
Of course...if in doubt dismiss and miss the beauty.