Interesting points, George.
The original blog contains words like dangerous, naive, idealistic, aggressor, breaking the spine, etc....words that lend to angry, fear based approach.
There is nothing wrong with this.
My approach is different....I tend to use words like connection, lose balance, Patience, tolerance...these words create a more peaceful approach.
A peaceful approach can address the core issue of Aikido which is self -defense just as a fear based approach does. Many paths...we all know... lead to the same place.
How many times do you have to hear that you are far off base before the message begins to sink in?
If words like dangerous, naive, idealistic, aggressor, breaking the spine, etc... LEAD YOU to ASSUME INCORRECTLY that this is an angry, fear based approach, then that issue rests solely with you.
At the end of the day, the words we use provide precious little as to how a person can or cannot defend themselves if that person were to be physically assaulted by another person (s). At the end of the day, it is the skill sets that a person has been taught to utilize (including how one manages one's own internal space) that will help to possibly make a difference. Even then, there are no guarantees.
I am happy that you are satisfied with "Mary's approach" towards teaching Aikido. Problems arise when you make inaccurate assumptions as to "other people's" approaches towards teaching Aikido that do not resonate with your approach. You might want to consider how your way of viewing things might distort your perceptions and conclusions regarding other people's ways. Then again, you might not.....