Re: relaxing during technique - how?
Building on what Jun suggested and esp. if you are out of breath: if, ideally, the technique is done in one breath - moving in/taking balance on inhale and doing the throw/takedown on the exhale - when I used to have problems with my breathing getting too fast and I was getting ahead of things, I found it helpful to pace my movements so that it took TWO full breaths to do a given technique. Made me slow down and gave me time to work on all the inside myself stuff I wanted to pay attention to, stop rushing and pushing my partner around, and let me get grounded and more relaxed. I"ve suggested it to kohai through the years and many found this helpful.