I think we need to be respectful and considerate of all of our training partners and their life experiences.
Desire is desire. Violence is violence. Love is love.
I daresay that it is hard to find many of the world's problems that do not find their root in the confusion of these three things -- in any number of variations.
The dojo is a not a place to indulge any of them.
It is a place to learn how to tease them apart with greater clarity and a few ways to set them in better order.