Mary: ah.. I was talking in more general terms and not specifically about the tap. I agree on what you write above. When tapping starts the pin will be eased.
My idea of pushing people is to create the opportunity for them to do things they wouldn't choose. People are lazy by nature, but if you create a situation where things are slightly more hectic or challenging than usually then some of them choose to take the opportunity. Out of respect for me, out of curiosity or for some other reason. They CAN always opt out of course.
Sometime I trow them a little further or harder than what they are used to - but I leave room for them to let go of my hand and stop the attack if they feel beyond their borders. I have quite good results and people seem to stick around, so I am quite certain this is perceived as a 'friendly push' and NOT as a traumatizing experience.
Hope I get my opinion across.. English is not my 1st language so "results may vary"
Great day to everyone.