If you are happy with any path your life takes, why is that a bad thing? I'm not saying that you want to be abused, I'm saying that it's impossible to make you feel abused, you accept what happens to you with joy. That sounds like the best life anyone could live, if you ask me.
Well, if somebody puts out cigarettes on my arm, then I'm abused, whether I feel that way or not. I suppose that I could be OK with not "feeling" abused, and I suppose that it's OK if somebody wants to go that way - but I don't think for a moment that's what Ueshiba was pointing towards.