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Proportionate force is often the best way to prevent a physical attack without encouraging retribution. However efforts should be made for reconciliation after aggresive energy has dissipated.
Peoples attitude towards the correct reaction depends on their ultimate goal. The ultimate goal of verbal Aikido as described above, must only be to avoid physical injury of yourself. Maybe a more justifiable goal is preventing harm to others, maybe the best goal is harmony (which usually comes from a period of conflict, and requires truth).
Besides, if you do the 'do' bit of Aikido and are a buddhist (esp. Zen)truthfulness in view and truthfulness in speech are central tennnets.