I see we have nothing in common. Have fun.
I think that you are correct that common ground does not exist between you and Dan, though that is not because he does not have lots to offer. You are just on a different page and one I see as closer to the beginning rather than the ending of the book. That is perfectly ok, each of us working at our own pace and having time to stop anywhere along the path......or even stop. As for me I am ok with what I don't know, knowing that I don't know it and may not get to it.
As for me these days......there is likely no one in the dojo here that can do nikyo on me if I don't want them to......that doesn't Mean I don't as part of practice. I agree with Dan that you should have the ability to keep your center, giving out what you want as part of practice. Years ago Saotome Sensei said in a small class in the old OCAK dojo ('83 likely) when ask that knives could cut vegetables or people, one needed the skill to do both.....choice was then yours. Without the skill set if needed it was not available.
Have a good day